Before I would just take things as they came, internalize them, be miserable about it but not voice my concern in fear of being told that I can't handle his lifestyle. Drives me a bit crazy. Neither of our children ever considered medicine as a career after seeing how much their dad missed out on. He is truly my soulmate and I shudder to think that if I had not chosen to marry outside of the church, I would not have had this life with him. Hi I am married to a doctor and I am alone most of the time. Should I jump ship. It's really somethi g to watch a person who is so self absorbed. We don't have many nights out and he does sleep when he can but he has a surgeon's ego and so being great in bed is a priority for him. I would bet this is exactly what she is thinking about you, which is why she is willing to have a relationship with you aren't a Mormon.
I know it is really hard for you and I'm sure it is hard for him too. I agree with what you and so many of the other replies have said: Listen with an open heart and curiosity. Modest dressing is the best policy here. You've stated that she had numerous guys break up with her after she took sex off the table. I am an extrovert too, I do feel lonely when my husband is not around on weekends or holidays or when I fall sick. I told her that is noble but she would be selfish to marry and work 80 hour work weeks yet if she does marry I can not see any man who would selflessly give over decades for the sake of his wife's career. And I never found that "good Mormon girl". There are many great and wonderful people in the church, and the real evil about the church is that it harms those great and wonderful people. I am not going to blame him for not putting effort into it, because he probably put as much effort into it as he could. Honestly, I have given up on lds men as a single 25 year old.
All in good time, my dear. He will not be permitted to bless the child in front of the ward, for instance, so you will have to choose to forego that ritual or find someone else to stand in for the father, which he may not be comfortable with. Maybe it was because I was so young when I made the choice, maybe it was because I was the oldest child in an extremely active family with parents that just expected me to be a shining example to the younger kids. Ultimately we broke up. In her mind if you never accept the gospel you are denying her eternal exaltation as a God. We do have cancelled Skype dates and rescheduled phone calls but when I really need him he puts his needs aside. Our daughter is 6. I've started to get annoyed when close friends approach him for medical guidance. Having married over the course of my life not one but two wonderful non-Mormon men one Jewish and one low-church ProtestantI can say that my own spirituality has been profoundly deepened and enriched by the perspective that these two God-fearing and spiritually mature people offered me, and by my participation in the observances of their traditions. Catholics basically married catholics and protestants basically married protestants.
I am happy and established successful comp. I wouldn't swap roles with my husband any day, he definitly has it the hardest. There are billions of other girls out there who I wouldn't have issues like this with.